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  • Be a Friend (poem)
  • Known Because of Kindness by Lance Cordle
  • The Outsider (poem) by Netagene Kirkpatrick
  • How to Have Good Conversations with the Elderly by Pat Gates
  • 10 Simple Ways to Show Compassion



Be A Friend

Take time for friendship when you can,
The hours fly swiftly, and the need
That presses on your fellowman,
May fade away at equal speed
And you may sigh before the end,
That you have failed to play the friend.

Not all life's pride is born in fame,
Not all the joy from work is won,
Too late we hang our heads in shame,
Remembering good we could have done.
Too late we wish that we had stayed,
To comfort those who called for aid.

Take time to do the little things
Which leave the satisfactory thought,
When other joys have taken wings,
That we have labored as we ought,
That in a world where all contend,
We often stopped to be a friend.

--Author unknown



 Known Because of Kindness

By Lance Cordle

“Now in Joppa there was a disciple named Tabitha (which translated in Greek is called Dorcas); this woman was abounding with deeds of kindness and charity which she continually did.” (Acts 9:36, NASBU)

     A discouraging aspect of current American culture is the seemingly endless fascination with celebrities—actors, athletes, and those who are fabulously wealthy. Not only are there entire television programs and magazines devoted to this cult of celebrity worship, but even “serious” news programs have segments filled with the latest “buzz” and celebrity gossip. Most of the people followed, worshiped, and profiled live lives of shallow hedonism.

     How refreshing it is, then, to turn to the pages of the Bible and be introduced to a woman whose life was characterized by deeds of kindness. Tabitha (also known as Dorcas) was a Christian at Joppa, a city on the Mediterranean coast of Palestine. Readers of the Bible are introduced to Tabitha because she died, but she was significant because of the way she lived her life. You can read her brief story in Acts 9: 36-43.

     First, notice that the Bible makes special mention of her kindness. The first words of the narrative are those explaining who she was. The Bible says she was “abounding with deeds of kindness.” She was not know for one deed, but many—an overflowing number. Also, it is said the she “continually did” acts of kindness. This was a way of life for her. Thus, it not only describes her deeds, but her heart.

     Secondly, take note of the fact that her brothers and sisters in Christ made a special effort to get Peter to go to Joppa. Wayne Jackson, in his commentary on Acts, makes mention of normalcy of same-day burial (Acts 5:6) and the delay in Tabitha ‘s case. He also wonders if their delay and call for Peter were indicators of their hope that he could do something about her death (The Acts of the Apostles from Jerusalem to Rome, p. 119).

     Finally, as you read the account of Tabitha, notice the impact of her passing on those she had affected. The widows (an often-neglected class then and now) stood by crying and displaying clothing she had made (presumably for them). Her life was so meaningful that the impact of her death was powerful.

     We would likely not have known of Tabitha if it had not been for her kindness. Not only did she make a difference in the lives of people then, but she continues to affect people today, because of her kindness. What a beautiful life—that started in a beautiful heart! How’s your heart? 




The Outsider


Everywhere there's always a person

who is almost always alone.

It's especially sad when it's at church,

though usually not TOO bad when at home.


Could be a man, but more likely, a lady.

She may even have been there for years,

but because of cliques, she's an outsider,

and that causes her heartbreaking tears.


Maybe she's shy, or a widow,

or maybe single all of her life,

but to be excluded is hurtful,

and you know that God condemns strife.


Invite her to a party or luncheon,

but don't leave her alone on the wall.

What if Jesus came there by Himself?

Would He feel welcome at all?


Don't YOU want to be treated kindly,

rather than ignored, and almost cruel?

Remember to follow the Bible,

and what we call the "Golden Rule".


You may find you have things in common

when you reach to her with compassionate love.

God bless you as you work to serve others.

Remember ALL blessings come from above.


One day, you may be where she is –

feeling unloved, in the cold.

So PLEASE, if you're in the "in" crowd,

include this lonely soul.


~ by Netagene Kirkpatrick, February 3, 2014, written especially for and at the request of a good friend, a widowed Christian whose husband was a preacher. Even though she’s lived in her present home for several years



How To Have Good Conversations with the Elderly

Pat Gates 

Speak where they can hear you but don't shout.

Listen and respond, with interest, to what they are saying.

Keep in mind any problems with memory they may have and try to prevent them from being embarrassed.

Keep in mind short-term memory loss and allow them to finish their thought. An interruption can make them forget the thoughts they wanted to get across. 

Always give respect. 

Ask about their family. Children? Grandchildren?

Ask where they grew up. This may prompt a good conversation if you follow through with more questions. How did you like growing up there? I'm sure you've seen many changes over the years. What was it like to grow up there?  (The past is often easier to recall than recent memories.)

Let them teach you from their vast array of wisdom and knowledge. Ask them what they think about a subject but be specific; too broad of a subject may be too confusing.

Allow them to vent, if they need to. We all need someone to talk to about our problems. Take what they are saying seriously and don't dismiss them. After truly listening and responding with empathy, follow up with positive thoughts before the conversation comes to a close. 

If you hear of any needs they have, if you can help, remember those needs and fulfill them but do not make a promise that you will do something or bring them something if you believe you may not be able to keep that promise. This is very important; how disheartening it is to wait for help and help never shows up.

At the close of the conversation, if you are visiting a woman in the privacy of her home or medical center, ask if she'd like you to lead in a word of prayer. Ask her if she has anything in particular she'd like you to pray about.



 “But…What do I say?”: Conversation Starters With Seniors and The Elderly




10 Simple Ways to Show Compassion

  1. Listen. Truly listen without interrupting.
  2. Respond in kindness, patience, and as much understanding as you can. You don't need to preach.
  3. Touch, if appropriate. Hold the hand of the distressed. Hug. Pat. (If you see the other one uncomfortable with this than refrain from touching.)
  4. Send a card or email letting the suffering one know they are being thought about.
  5. Pray for the sufferer and let him/her know you have done so.
  6. Pray with the sufferer.
  7. Give a small gift of cheer.
  8. Know it is OK to shed a tear.
  9. Be trustworthy. Don't share their information unless you have permission to do so and it is helpful to the one struggling.
  10. Volunteer to help but only if you are willing and able to follow through. 


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