- Be a Friend (poem)
- Known Because of Kindness by Lance
- The Outsider (poem) by Netagene Kirkpatrick
- How to Have
Good Conversations with the Elderly by Pat Gates
- 10 Simple Ways to Show Compassion
Be A Friend
Take time for friendship
when you can,
The hours fly swiftly, and the need
That presses on your
May fade away at equal speed
And you may sigh before the
That you have failed to play the friend.
Not all life's pride
is born in fame,
Not all the joy from work is won,
Too late we hang
our heads in shame,
Remembering good we could have done.
Too late we
wish that we had stayed,
To comfort those who called for aid.
Take time to do the little things
Which leave the satisfactory thought,
When other joys have taken wings,
That we have labored as we ought,
That in a world where all contend,
We often stopped to be a friend.
Known Because of Kindness
By Lance Cordle
“Now in Joppa there was a disciple named Tabitha (which translated in Greek
is called Dorcas); this woman was abounding with deeds of kindness and charity which she continually
did.” (Acts 9:36, NASBU)
A discouraging aspect of current
American culture is the seemingly endless fascination with celebrities—actors, athletes, and those who are
fabulously wealthy. Not only are there entire television programs and magazines devoted
to this cult of celebrity worship, but even “serious” news programs
have segments filled with the latest “buzz” and celebrity gossip. Most of the
people followed, worshiped, and profiled live lives of shallow hedonism.
How refreshing it is, then, to turn to the pages of the Bible and be introduced to
a woman whose life was characterized by deeds of kindness. Tabitha (also known
as Dorcas) was a Christian at Joppa, a city on the Mediterranean coast of Palestine. Readers
of the Bible are introduced to Tabitha because she died, but she was significant because of the
way she lived her life. You can read her brief story in Acts 9: 36-43.
First, notice that the Bible makes special mention of her kindness. The first words
of the narrative are those explaining who she was. The Bible says she was “abounding
with deeds of kindness.” She was not know for one deed, but many—an
overflowing number. Also, it is said the she “continually did” acts of kindness. This
was a way of life for her. Thus, it not only describes her deeds, but her heart.
Secondly, take note of the fact that her brothers and sisters in Christ made a special
effort to get Peter to go to Joppa. Wayne Jackson, in his commentary on Acts, makes mention of normalcy
of same-day burial (Acts 5:6) and the delay in Tabitha ‘s case. He also wonders
if their delay and call for Peter were indicators of their hope that he could do something
about her death (The Acts of the Apostles from Jerusalem
to Rome, p. 119).
Finally, as you read the account of Tabitha,
notice the impact of her passing on those she had affected. The widows (an often-neglected class then
and now) stood by crying and displaying clothing she had made (presumably for them). Her life
was so meaningful that the impact of her death was powerful.
We would likely not have known of Tabitha if it had not been for her kindness. Not
only did she make a difference in the lives of people then, but she continues to affect
people today, because of her kindness. What a beautiful life—that started in a beautiful heart! How’s your heart?
Everywhere there's always a person
who is almost always alone.
It's especially sad when it's at church,
though usually not TOO bad when
Could be a man, but more
likely, a lady.
She may even have been there for years,
but because of cliques, she's an outsider,
and that causes her heartbreaking tears.
Maybe she's shy, or a
maybe single all of her life,
but to be excluded is hurtful,
and you know that God condemns strife.
Invite her to a party or luncheon,
but don't leave her alone
on the wall.
What if Jesus came there by Himself?
Would He feel welcome at all?
Don't YOU want to be treated kindly,
rather than ignored, and almost
to follow the Bible,
and what we call the "Golden Rule".
You may find you have things in common
when you reach to her with compassionate
bless you as you work to serve others.
Remember ALL blessings come from above.
One day, you may be where she is –
feeling unloved, in the
PLEASE, if you're in the "in" crowd,
include this lonely soul.
~ by Netagene Kirkpatrick, February 3, 2014, written especially for and at the request of a good friend, a widowed Christian
whose husband was a preacher. Even though she’s lived in her present home for several years
How To Have Good Conversations with the Elderly
Speak where they can hear you but don't shout.
Listen and respond, with interest, to what they are saying.
Keep in mind any problems
with memory they may have and try to prevent them from being embarrassed.
Keep in mind short-term
memory loss and allow them to finish their thought. An interruption can make them forget the thoughts they wanted
to get across.
Always give respect.
Ask about their family.
Ask where they grew up. This may prompt a good conversation if you follow
through with more questions. How did you like growing up there? I'm sure you've seen many changes over the years. What was
it like to grow up there? (The past is often easier to recall than recent memories.)
Let them teach you from their vast array of wisdom and knowledge. Ask them what they think about a subject but be
specific; too broad of a subject may be too confusing.
Allow them to vent, if they need to.
We all need someone to talk to about our problems. Take what they are saying seriously and don't dismiss them. After truly
listening and responding with empathy, follow up with positive thoughts before the conversation comes to a close.
If you hear of any needs they have, if you can help, remember those needs and fulfill them but do not make a promise
that you will do something or bring them something if you believe you may not be able to keep that promise. This is very important;
how disheartening it is to wait for help and help never shows up.
At the close of the conversation,
if you are visiting a woman in the privacy of her home or medical center, ask if she'd like you to lead in a word of prayer.
Ask her if she has anything in particular she'd like you to pray about.
10 Simple Ways to Show Compassion
- Listen. Truly listen without interrupting.
- Respond in kindness, patience, and as much
understanding as you can. You don't need to preach.
- Touch, if appropriate. Hold the hand
of the distressed. Hug. Pat. (If you see the other one uncomfortable with this than refrain from touching.)
- Send a card or email letting the suffering one know they are being thought about.
for the sufferer and let him/her know you have done so.
- Pray with the sufferer.
- Give a small gift of cheer.
- Know it is OK to shed a tear.
trustworthy. Don't share their information unless you have permission to do so and it is helpful to the one struggling.
- Volunteer to help but only if you are willing and able to follow through.