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 “There are only four kinds of people in the world – those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers and those who will need caregivers”

 

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Our parents (and we, ourselves) often take what the doctor prescribes without question and we end up being shocked at the price of the drug. We shouldn't be embarrassed to ask our doctor questions about the costs of prescribed mediction, as well as medical tests. Our doctors may not keep up with the costs of these, or he may assume our insurance company will take care of the added cost; if this is the case, we need to educate our doctors! 

Ways to save money on prescription drugs.

(Sorry. I forgot to copy the source of these tips. pg)

1. Tell your doctor you can't afford the drugs he's prescribing.

According to the Consumer Reports survey, only 4 percent of those polled said they'd had a conversation with their doctors about the cost of a drug. You shouldn't hesitate to talk to your doctor about prices; these days, many people can't afford the skyrocketing price of prescription drugs.

"There's such an embarrassment level," Rodman said. "They stop taking the drugs, and they never tell me why."

2. Ask your doctor whether there's a generic that would work just as well.

It's amazing how much money you can save with this one little question. For example, if your doctor prescribes Lunesta, a sleeping pill, you could end up paying about $93 for 15 doses. Switch to zolpidem, which is the generic form of Ambien, and you'll pay $33 for the same number of doses, according to Consumer Reports Best Buy Drugs.

To make it really easy, bring in a list of the $4 generics sold at your local pharmacy and hand it to your doctor. If there isn't a generic that will work for your particular problem, ask whether there might be a less-expensive brand name available. Santa suggests wording it like this: "Can you tell me about other options that would cost me less?"

3. Ask the pharmacist for less-expensive alternatives.

If you didn't get a good answer from your doctor, ask your pharmacist whether there's a less-expensive drug in the same class as the one your doctor prescribed.

4. Use mail order.

You'll save money. Of course, this won't work when you need medicines immediately (for example, antibiotics for an infection), but mail order often works well for medicines you need to take long-term.

5. Find a prescription assistance program.

There are several out there to help people who can't afford their prescription drugs. Consumer Reports has advice on choosing a prescription assistance plan.

6. Be suspicious of free samples.

Samples are indeed enticing. But what a lot of people don't know is that samples are often for the most expensive drugs on the market. Although the samples will help you out for a month or two, after that, you'll have to start forking over the big bucks by yourself. For more information, see http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/04/24/ep.samples/index.html.

7. Don't push for what you see on TV.

Just as samples are often for the pricey drugs, TV commercials are also often for pricey drugs -- and drugs that don't necessarily work any better than cheaper alternatives. If you ask for what you see on TV, there's a chance your doctor might prescribe it -- and you'll get sticker shock at the pharmacy.

8. Split drugs with caution.

Sometimes you really can save money by asking your doctor to prescribe a double dosage of a drug and then splitting the pills in half. But there are safe and unsafe ways to split drugs, and some drugs should never be split at all. See Consumer Report's guidance on splitting drugs below this article.

There's a flip side to this. Let's say you're taking 10mg of a drug, and it's not working, so your doctor ups your dose to 20 mg. Don't take two of the 10mg pills, warns Dr. Robert Epstein, chief medical officer at Medco, a prescription drug insurance company. That'll end up costing you money, because you'll go through your drugs twice as fast. "Instead, ask for a single pill that has the higher strength," Epstein advised.

9. If you don't have insurance, shop around.

Pharmacies sometimes charge very different prices for the same drugs. In fact, Consumer Reports found that prices for the same bottle of pills can vary by more than $100.

Health Library

  • MayoClinic.com: Buying prescription drugs online

10. Ask for a review.

You may be taking medicines you don't need, especially if you see a variety of doctors who don't talk to one another about what they're prescribing. "Bring your drugs in to one doctor and say, 'Do I need to be taking all these?' " Epstein said.

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Should You Split Your Pills?

Consult your doctor about pill splitting. The dose you take of most medicines is very important. If you don’t get the right dose, the effect of the drug may be substantially reduced. Your doctor should know which drugs can be split and which cannot. You can consult a pharmacist, too, who may be willing to show you how to split your pills. Pills are only safely split in half and never into smaller portions, such as into thirds or quarters. There is no official, complete list of medicines that can be split, and some drugs are dangerous to split. That makes it doubly important to consult a doctor or pharmacist. Generally the following kinds of pills should not be split:

  • Chemotherapy drugs
  • Anti-seizure medicines
  • Birth control pills
  • Blood thinners (Coumadin, warfarin)
  • Capsules of any kind that contain powders or gels
  • Pills with a hard outside coating
  • Pills designed to release the medication over time in your body
  • Pills that are coated to protect your stomach
  • Pills that provide drug release throughout the day
  • Pills that crumble easily, irritate your mouth, taste bitter, or contain strong dyes that could stain your teeth and your mouth.
  • Examples of medicines that cannot be split include oxycodone (OxyContin) for pain, omeprazole (Prilosec) for heartburn, and cetirizine (Zyrtec) for allergies.
  • Some pills may deteriorate when exposed to air and moisture for long periods after being split. Therefore, you should not split your pills in advance. Instead, do it on the day you are taking the first half. Then take the remaining half on the second day.
  • Don’t split your pills with a knife. This can be dangerous and generally is imprecise. That is, it leads to unequal halves too often, studies show. Instead, purchase a pill splitter. They cost from $3 to $10 and are available at most pharmacies and large discount stores. A device for splitting oddly shaped pills may cost more, up to $25. Some insurers will send you a pill splitter for free so check with your health plan.
  • If you have poor eyesight, or if you have an ailment like arthritis or Parkinson’s disease, it might be difficult for you to split your pills. You should talk with your doctor about whether it might be too much of a burden.
  • Likewise, people with memory problems or impaired thinking are not good candidates to split their pills.
  • The easiest pills to split are relatively flat round ones with a scored center. That’s a slightly indented line that runs across the center of the pill. However, not every pill that has a scored center is meant to be split. Again, consult your doctor or pharmacies


Act as if what you do makes a difference. 
It does.

"God does not comfort us to make us comfortable, but to make us comforters."

>  Now we that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let each one of us please his neighbor for that which is good, unto edifying. For Christ also pleased not himself; but, as it is written, The reproaches of them that reproached thee fell upon me. For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that through patience and through comfort of the scriptures we might have hope. Now the God of patience and of comfort grant you to be of the same mind one with another according to Christ Jesus: that with one accord ye may with one mouth glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Wherefore receive ye one another, even as Christ also received you, to the glory of God. (Rom 15:1-7)

  • Ignoring the infirmities of the weak is pleasing ourselves.
  • Telling the weak what we think about them, without listening, is pleasing ourselves.
  • Judging the weak on appearance or heresay is pleasing ourselves.
  • Doing anything to the weak that is not edifying for them is pleasing ourselves.
  • Making sure we are not uncomfortable in anyway when edifying is pleasing ourselves.
  • Glorifying ourselves instead of God is pleasing ourselves.
  • Not having the mind of Christ towards those who are weak is pleasing ourselves.
  • Not receiving the weak, as Christ received us, is pleasing ourselves.
  • Ignoring the strong who may be temporarily weak is pleasing ourselves.

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"Love is being happy for the other person
when they are happy
being sad for the other person when they are sad
being together in good times
and being together in bad times
Love is the source of strength."

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I may not always be by your side,
but my prayers will be with you.
I may not always help you,
but deep inside you know I want to.
I may not always do what you like,
but I will do the best I can.
I may not always understand,
but we can still walk hand in hand.
I may not be the perfect friend,
I may not be the best out there,
but in spite and despite all these,
you can be sure somebody cares!

-unknown



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"You have it easily in your power to increase the sum total of this world's happiness now. How? By giving a few words of sincere appreciation to someone who is lonely or discouraged. Perhaps you will forget tomorrow the kind words you say today, but the recipient may cherish them over a lifetime. "


Use this form to add something to the
"What I wish" list.



What I Wish Everyone Knew About
Being a Caregiver

  •  I do wish others would not immediately negatively judge and condemn a decision the main caregivers have to make without first seeking the truth of the matter. Difficult decisions are painful enough without having to receive a reprimand out of total ignorance.
  • I have been trying to help a first cousin with dealing with her mother's situation of being in a nursing home and not being well mentally.  I have been down that road with my mother's mother and my mother.  It is hard to write what to do. But they are a long distance from where I live.  I have told my cousin to put on a happy face when visiting the nursing home, cry on the way home if necessary, talk about what is going on in your life even if the other person does not respond. My own mother was speechless after a paralyzing stroke and I talked to her just like she would answer me which she did with facial expressions or blinking of her eyes.  Lost my mother 7 years ago this week and it is still hard, as I was an only child and only grandchild of her family. Just felt the need to share this with you.
  • I know about being a caregiver as an only child.
    My father raised me to be an independent thinker and taught me how to handle business affairs and money.  So after he died it was up to me to do these things for my mother.  To begin with she lived 200 miles from my home and I would spend 2 weeks with her and then come home to my husband and teenage daughter for 2 weeks.  Finally had to convince mother to move near my family.  She would seldom get out to go shopping even with me, so I would get a list from her or make one myself and go do her grocery and other shopping.  I was so depressed after she had a big stroke that left her paralyzed on the left side and brain damaged.
    So I had been raised and told to put her in the best nursing home I could find and keep a close watch on her.  This I did for over 4 years, changed nursing homes once.  She also lost her ability to speak so we communicated with smiles or frowns, surprising how much visiting you can get done with facial expressions from her and me asking questions or carrying on a conversation like she was going to answer me.  Had to watch for her eyes to seem clear and alert before trying to carrying on a conversation.  I can never look back and doubt I did the best I could do for her.  She has been gone for almost 7 years and I miss her still.
  • I wish my loved one would understand I do all I can and not try and make me feel guilty that I'm not doing enough. I'm ill myself and have my own limitations.
  •  I wish my mother would understand I'm trying so hard to be positive about the situation we are in, and for her not be so negative about everything. That is the hardest thing about my being a caregiver, is to begin a day happy and by 10 a.m. having my joy squashed by negativity.

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Use this box for comments or if there is a topic you'd like to discuss about caregiving.

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  • I need patience, understanding, stamina, endurance... to remember to count my blessings... to find a little time for my own needs.
  • 10 plus years of caring for elderly parents w/Alzheimers and my own family's financial stress caused me to become clinically depressed. For a long time I felt guilty about this because a Christian should not be depressed. I avoided talking about my problems with my brothers and sisters in the Lord for many reasons, but primarily because I knew many (who'd never faced these problems) who thought faithful Christians never faced depression. I also did not talk about it because sharing my problems was like a crack in the wall of a dam. It did not take a lot of compassion from another soul to reduce me to tears. If asked, I often joked and made light of everything but inside I was strung so tightly that I nearly broke. Rather than field questions, I appreciated a non verbal hug or expressions of admiration for my parents and for me. Little favors that made my life easier - someone volunteering to take on a responsibility at church that had been mine to carry out, work done on our house for which I would never get a bill, a favorite food of my father's brought to me on a regular basis. If you know someone who is struggling, support them and try to smooth some of life's road for them, if you can.
  • I appreciate so much when others offer their help with my mom to give me a break. I do wish, however, if they are serious about it, that they would invite her over, rather than saying to me, "Call me if you need me." I don't feel comfortable calling, unless it is an emergency and I don't want to hurt my mom's feelings by her finding out I just want some time alone in my house. Also, if she knew I had called someone to take her she would feel uncomfortable there and feel like she was in the way.

ARCHIVES

2006/2007

  • Rewards of Caregiving
  • Health Consequences of Women's Caregiving
  • A Caregiver's Poem
  • To My Children (poem)
  • Guilt - The Weapon That's Always at our Disposal
  • Caregivers Become the Memory for the Alzheimer's Patient
  • Coping Tips for Caregivers: A to Z
  • Caregiver (poem)
  • Interview with a Caregiver
  • Communicate with Your Family and Friends
  • Staying focused on Our Blessings
  • Five Must-Dos When a Loved One is Ill
  • Empathy
  • A Servant's Prayer (poem)

2008

  • Caring for My Mother
  • Coping with the Nursing Home Decision
  • At Miz Beth's Bedside
  • Planning Ahead - Caring For Elderly Parents
  • When Your Loved One Has Cancer
  • Caregiving 101
  • A Caregiver's Heart (poem)

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2009

  • Managing Caregiver Guilt
  • The Wounded Heart - Misjudgment
  • Some Thoughts to Remember With Our Mothers in Mind
  • Thoughts concerning losing a spouse to cognitive problems
  • 5 Easy Steps to Finding the Best Adult Day Care Program by By Molly Shomer
  • She’s Still My Mother  By Jerry Ham
  • Ten Tips For Family Caregivers
  • Caring for Adults wih Cognitive & Memory Problems (Part 1, 2 and 3)
  • Home Care Safety for the Caregiver

 

2010

  • Ruth Miller
  • Gift Ideas for those in Nursing Homes
  • Visiting Hour
  • Wish You Were Here
  • Medications and the Elderly
  • Why Should I Care About Your Problems?
  • It's All In the Attitude
  • Components of a Condolence Letter
  • Helen Keller on Friendship
  • Normal Negative Feelings a Caregiver May Have

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